Why does it hurt during sex?
Painful sex can happen for different reasons, including medical conditions like a bacterial infection to sexual dysfunctions like vaginismus. Sometimes, being not lubricated enough or the presence of ingrown hairs can cause intercourse to hurt too.
The following sex positions may help with painful sex:
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Pillow under waist
This is a simple but effective position if you find yourself in pain during sex. Lay down with a pillow under your hips and have your spouse lay on top of you as you wrap your knee around him. The pillow raises your hips so you are at a more accessible angle for penetration, making sex hurt less.
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Woman on top
If you’re still new to sex, being on top can induce some discomfort but it actually gives you more control so if you are in pain, you can adjust quickly. Have your spouse sit cross-legged and sit on top of him. You can balance on his chest to make it easier for you and go as fast or slow as you would like.
With this position, your spouse can’t go too deep when you’re on your side, which is a good thing. You can still enjoy sex without having to be in pain. Start off in a spooning position, then try to position yourself in a way that you can be penetrated. It might take some time to find an angle you’re comfortable with, but it’ll be worth it.
Angles makes all the difference when it comes to sex. If you are sitting on a surface (a table or chair, for instance) it can be a lot easier to have someone inside you. Try sitting on a table and have your spouse stand in front of you while holding your legs.
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If sex is really hurting you, then you should take a break from penetrative sex for a while. You can stick to some non-penetrative moves while standing that will build intimacy between you and your spouse. It will help you feel more comfortable with each other and might help make you more ready to have sex.
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